Gay Mormons aren't allowed to be unhappy without being attacked. If you have one bad day, one bad week, or one bad year, it opens your whole life up to ridicule and judgment by the Mormon community. I'm sure it is the same for Christian conservatives everywhere. Here's what I mean:
If somethings goes wrong in your life, everyone points to it and says, "wickedness never was happiness." Any problem you might encounter is put into the bank of ammo people can use against you. If you are unhappy, they believe it is because God is punishing you for your "deviant" lifestyle. Therefore, there is no reason to comfort or empathize because it is God's judgment. Rather, they feel they need to point to your pain and say, "see, I told you so."
People do this whenever disaster strikes also. If some big disaster happens in some location, many point and say- "God must be very unhappy with those people over there." It is ridiculous. Bad things happen to good people. Even righteous people. But for some reason Mormons have this unconscious idea that if only they were righteous enough, life would be just peachy. Gay people have bad days. They have bad weeks, and yes, even bad years. But then so do straight people. Having a hard time or a bad day doesn't go hand-in-hand with sin.